September 03, 2005 — Would you like some man bashing with that?   6 comments

Dinner Tonight
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I was wondering of I could get some thoughts on something that came up at dinner.

Dinner wasn’t “all that,” but I enjoyed the company. Then at the end of dinner, tucked in with the bill, were these little cards with amusing sayings. Here was the one I got:

A man’s got to do what a man’s got to do.
A woman must do what he can’t.
— Rhonda Hansome

This struck a nerve with me. It’s man bashing. Now, I realize man bashing is fashionable, but it irritates me nonetheless.

Let me try to demonstrate what I mean by changing the witty comment slightly:

A woman’s got to do what a woman’s got to do.
A man must do what she can’t.

Most likely, you don’t find this second version as funny. Even if you are not a woman, you have been taught that such a comment is sexist. The restaurant where we ate would have caught no end of flack if they had handed out cards with this latter saying on it. In fact, they never would have. More than that, the cards with this saying would not have been printed. The saying would have been correctly deemed misogynistic.

So why is the former saying, the man-bashing one, amusing enough to hand out like after dinner mints? Answer: It’s not funny. It’s just as sexist as the misogynistic saying.

Yet, there I was, holding it after dinner. I wasn’t laughing.

Any thoughts?


Posted Saturday, September 3, 2005 by Grant in Random

6 responses to “September 03, 2005 — Would you like some man bashing with that?

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  1. I agree.. ‘whats good for the goose is good for the gander’’s a generalization based on some bitter woman’s experience.. not always true.. My husband goes well beyond the call of duty in most things.. and I am positive its the same for others. Too bad your dinner had to end on that bitter note. btw… I am adding u here, to my list..

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  2. It looks like men are the only ones that are fair game for jokes anymore. I personaly think its a case of envy.

  3. i agree that men bashing is sexist and inappropriate, especially in that type of setting! having said that, EXSCUSE ME SAIL? WOMEN ENVIOUS OF MEN? I DONT THINK SO, JUST WOMEN LOOKING FOR AN EASY MARK.

  4. But rule the world in so many areas……women are put behind most everywhere…..lets laugh a bit about them? Not to put them down or to get even………but simply because we might need to? ( hides under the desk)

  5. Sorry, I don’t know you, but I’ve been reading some of your stuff. I don’t take this saying as sexist, no matter which way it could be written. Rather, I see it as more of a statement of the fact that where one person fails, another succeeds. … Just my thought on it.

  6. @ Giovanna: Yes, you don’t know me, but I thank you for your comment.

    I can see your point. The phrases “a man” and “a woman” could make the comment specific to a certain two people. Unlike “men” and “women,” which would be generalizations.

    So, this would be sexist (and untrue) either way it is written:

    “Men have to do what men have to do.
    Women must do what men can’t.”

    “Women have to do what women have to do.
    Men must do what women can’t.”

    Hmmm… reading them this way, I can still see the point of them not being neccessarily sexist. For example, giving birth would apply to the first version.

    Any other thoughts?

    — Grant

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